In this book chapter my dear friend Pamela Chao and I explore what it is to form an inter-racial alliance that supports each other's growth while challenging unacknowledged privileges and assumptions. It appeared in a book titled: Unlikely Allies in the Academy: Women of Color and White Women in Conversation, edited by Karen L. Dace, and published by Routledge in 2012. This article is a draft version of the final article and is used with permission. "What's Love Got To Do With It"